Sunday, July 31, 2011

Advice for my soon-to-be married friends

This weekend I went to an engagement party for my sweet friend Allison. Allison lives in New York, so we don't get to see each other very often. Don't you love those friends you can go a year and a half without seeing, and when you finally do it's like absolutely nothing has changed? I'm really lucky to have a handful of wonderful friends like that. The party was beautiful. It was good to catch up with old friends, have a few drinks, and leave with two bags of candy.

How cute is this candy bar in the wedding colors?
After the party, her mom asked me if I had any advice for the soon to be married couple. Jordan immediately chimed in with "Let her have whatever she wants for the wedding!" I have to say, that is some pretty sound advice.

Such a happy day

Since I have so many good friends getting married in the coming months, I've actually been thinking about this exact topic lately. I don't consider myself to have tons of great marriage advice, but after thinking about it for a while here's what I've come up with.

Never go to bed angry.
This is one of the best pieces of advice we got before our wedding. It sounds so simple, but it truly is hard to do sometimes.

Create a hug pact. (Or something similar.)
Jordan had this idea a long time ago. Every morning before we leave for work, we make a point to hug each other. I know it sounds silly, but it's one of those things I love about our relationship.

Never use the word "divorce" in an argument. 
It's a low blow. Just don't do it.

Be honest.
Again, it sounds so simple. Honesty and trust are some of the most essential parts of being with someone. Whether you're married or just beginning a relationship, always make a point to be honest with one another about everything.  

Pick your battles.
Take a step back and put your argument into perspective. Do you really care enough about the pair of pants he left on the floor to not speak to each other for a week? Probably not. 

Keep your disagreements between you.
This is very hard for me to do sometimes, but it truly does strengthen your marriage. Complaining about your hubby to your friends just isn't worth it.

Can you think of anything else?

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